Friday, January 30, 2009

Women’s Intuition or Gut Feeling?

Do you believe it? Do you trust what it’s trying to show you? There have been plenty of times when I wanted to believe that mine was mistaken, but it hasn’t failed me yet! It seems to me that my intuition is trying to show me what my head knows but my heart doesn’t want to recognize.

It’s not only in the case of say,the feeling you get when your man is cheating on you, but it’s with anything! I can feel when the electric bill is on the way and it’s too high, I can feel when something is going to go wrong on the car, I can usually feel when something bad is going to happen. It’s not only the bad things though, but its funny those are the ones that stick out in my mind.

Is women’s intuition the same as “First mind is always right?” Not exactly… Is “Gut Feeling” the same as “Intuition”? I guess so, you can call it that. It’s the feeling you get in the pit of your stomach, usually when something isn’t right. Oprah says that God speaks to you in a whisper and she says to trust “the feeling”.

I love this article by Rabbi Ritchie Moss. He writes –

Why Men Aren’t Blessed With Women's Intuition

QUESTION: Recently you wrote that women are relationship beings and men are loners. Well if women are such relationship experts, why can't my wife communicate clearly and just say what she means?

It was her birthday yesterday, and when I mentioned it last week, she said: "Don't you dare do anything for my birthday!" So I didn't.

Now she won't speak to me. I did exactly as she said and I'm in trouble! Am I missing something?

ANSWER: Yes, you are missing something. It's called women's intuition. Your wife has it, and you never will.

Men are literalists, women are intuitive. It's been that way since the beginning of time.

It all started with Adam and Eve. When G-d told Adam: "Do not eat of the fruit of knowledge, because if you do you will die", he took it literally.

But Eve read between the lines. She understood that when G-d says don't eat, he really means: "Eat, but I didn't tell you to."

Eve sensed that G-d wanted humans to experience mortality and fallibility and wanted them to know both good and evil, but he didn't want to force it on them he wanted them to choose it.

She used her intuition to uncover what G-d really meant. That's why she ate of the fruit.

Eve acted intuitively because that's how she was created. The verb used to describe G-d creating Eve was "Vayiven", which literally means G-d built Eve, but can also be translated as "G-d endowed Eve with intuition".

She was given an additional insight to be able to read between the lines, and understand what lies behind the words people say.

To this day women possess this ability, to intuit hidden messages and sense what is below the surface.

And sometimes they mistakenly expect others to have this insight too.

When your wife told you she doesn't want anything for her birthday, she thought you would hear not her words but her inner intention.

What she meant was, "I don't want to tell you what I want for my birthday, I want it to come from you”.

But being a man, not blessed with women's intuition, you took her on face value, and did as she said: nothing.

Women's intuition is a wonderful gift, but your wife will have to learn that you simply don't have it.

Her female friends might know exactly what she means even when she doesn't say it, but you, her husband, will only ever hear what she says and act accordingly.

You must let her know that you may never learn to read her mind, and teach her to say exactly what she means and give you clear instructions.

This is not because you are not in tune with her, and not because you don't love or understand her. It is because you are a man. And that's all you need to be.

Let me know what you think…


Anonymous said...

Intuition or Gut Feeling...........
We are all born with Intuition or Gut Feeling....they serve as a score card to other peoples actions sort of like a checking account. When we listen to intuition and bad things happeen its a deposit, when we ignore it and bad things happen its a withdrawal. Thus some of us have a fat mental bank account while some of us have two nickels. Now as they say in the movies this is where the plot thickens. Whats good and what is bad? Life has many shades of gray and intuition without checks and balances can have you seeing things that arent there, sort of like the shakespere play Othelo. In the real world people who have a history of being right stick to there guns and keep there philosophys locked tightly in there mental safe. Those of us who are unsure if we are going in the right direction constantly stop and ask for directions or clarity. Often these directions tend to send you right back to our starting point. As you start to make more deposits you become better at calling a spade a spade. As i see things you come to a point of clarity when you TRUST EVERYONE you meet. You trust Liars to Lie. You trust Haters to Hate. You trust some friends to be jealous. You trust some strangers to be your friends. Thats the two sides of Intuition.
My Thoughts.

Anonymous said...

arguing about this to no end right now with the my wife. can you measure this? no, so it's just an opinion and will always be unless there's an Eistein out there in the physio/pshycological world that can come up with a questoinairre that is infalitable.
Bottom line, it's just another device to say that women are smater than men at something but really, it's just that some women are smart as are some men